Tuesday, June 8, 2010
Kumar: My favorite Metrosexual - Eighth Installment and Conclusion
10. Despite being flattered (even proud) that gay guys hit on you, you still find the thought of actually getting intimate with another man truly repulsive.
I do suppose that being the object of admiration by a member of the same sex might be a plausible confirmation of one's attractiveness, but being simply the real man that he is, Kumar asked me to emphasize and re-emphasize and emphasize some more the latter part of that statement. He says that he finds the thought just revolting. I repeat revolting...period.
Kumar gets his fair share of hit-ons from the ladies, sometimes even by some so unabashedly in my presence. I just take it as a compliment. If anything, it just indicates that my hubby is still perhpas hot commodity?? Well the thing about Kumar is that he is self-confident to a healthy degree and is so unassuming that he doesn't come across as obnoxious but rather as quite charming and likeable. So some mornings when he's all dressed up for work, he'll admiringly give his reflection in the mirror a once-over and will jokingly blurt out: "Man, you are one lucky Filipina to have such a good-looking hubby and such beautiful kids." And although I'll never understand what my racial background has to do with anything or how it's possibly relevant, I'll just smile good-naturedly and pulling my best Kumar impersonation, roll my eyes and reply: "OK, there!"
**In conclusion, I believe there's no doubt that Kumar is indeed metrosexual. And as his wife, I'm proud of this fact. After all, how many women have husbands who dress better than they do (lol)? I'm resigned to this fact and I think that it's a great thing, it's actually an incentive for me to doll myself up on the days that I would rather show up at the office with sweats and sneakers, hair in a ponytail and without a trace of make-up. I like how Kumar's attention to detail when it comes to image and appearance has rubbed off on me, it's been such a positive catalyst.
I also hope that I was able to dispel some common misconceptions about metrosexuality. After all, as the Urban Dictionary also defines it, all it is really is "a new name for something quite old and that have always existed - men with taste & style who know about fashion, art, and culture." Think Frank Sinatra, Sean Connery, Clive Owen, Jude Law, Daniel Craig, etc...you know the type (funny how all mentioned except for Frankie Blue Eyes and Sean are British?? Sean of course is Scottish, which is close enough, some say...thanks, Rach!). I find them to be a breath of fresh air in an age & society where most men think that it's ok to be sloppy, unkempt and disheveled. Refreshing just as Michael Bublé is as a singer. Wouldn't you agree how nice it is sometimes to hear him suavely croon actual coherent lyrics as opposed to the bloodcurdling wailing and grunting of unintelligible words by his rockstar counterparts?
My wish is that more men would actually embrace metrosexuality and shun "slobbiness." But more importantly, I wish men would stop equating masculinity with drunken brawling, womanizing and ridiculously lame acts of bravado (rotfl) . I believe that the true mark of a real man, lies in his upholding of principles & morals, his integrity and depth of character and his possesion of rare qualities such as humility and self-control and if he is able to embody all of this and pull off a pink polo shirt while he's at it...then my hat definitely goes off to him...may his tribe ever increase!!!